Emotional reality is more apparent in early life. Left unresolved, emotional non-reality has more of an effect on later life than you may imagine.
Emotional reality is dominant in early life. If you have or observe children before they’re about six years old, you may notice they are learning and functioning almost strictly by emotions. Whether they are supported or not in that emotional flow determines the (relative) growth of the chakra and the consciousness level each chakra is associated with. By the time a child’s ability to think is activated (around age 6), their emotional flow through chakras one, two and three is pretty much set and has been determined by the degree of emotional support through that development.
How the Thinking Process is Directed by the Emotions:
As each chakra operates in various states of energetic flow, impulses of emotional energy have a specific resonance and frequency that the brain interprets. It then creates thought (patterns) matching that emotional / energetic resonance.
Thoughts are created to match how you feel. Try this out for yourself
– or try to think thoughts that are the opposite of how you feel and observe the difficulty.
Around age six, when the third chakra becomes more activated, emotional blockages begin to manifest more specific behavior patterns. An example of a blocked third chakra (power / identity) is when the child feels a difficulty making choices because they have not been supported in their personal preferences. For example, Mommy says: “Of course you don’t like vanilla, you like chocolate,” when the child clearly prefers vanilla. The child’s brain will interpret the emotional confusion between its own preference and wanting to please Mommy or Daddy. The thoughts will match the ambivalence they feel: “I don’t know what I like,” or “Making Mommy happy is more important.” This is the beginning of people-pleasing behaviors.
If we attempt to control unwanted feelings with new thought patterns alone,
we end up creating energy-sapping resistance.
Positive Affirmations – An Attempt to Circumvent the Root of the Issue:
Positive affirmations have a less than lasting effect on the person attempting to make lasting changes. This is because the originating emotional impulses are not being addressed. This is not to say that the commitment is not there to make changes. When the emotions remain unresolved – because emotions need to move and change, those feelings send relentless impulses to the brain. In the healthiest scenario, the brain would reply: “Something’s wrong with the way I’m feeling, because it feels negative. I must make a change.”
Meditation can become difficult as well; when the emotions do not flow freely and create many repetitive thoughts. So much so that thoughts can become habits without the person realizing it. This then creates a loop that reinforces the unresolved feelings.
A New Solution – Begin to Address the Root of the Issue.
In order to genuinely heal and transform the emotional body, one must re-fire the emotional flow. This, for most people, is not the direction they focus on. Mostly they focus is on symptoms, which only supports surviving emotional states and does not empower the person to deeper fulfilment and being in-charge of their choices.
Note: This is where the pharmaceuticals solutions are often sought. For the most part, the effects of behavior modifying drugs tend to numb the person to those deeper, unresolved feelings. Let me be clear, however, for those of you who are taking them, I am not suggesting that you stop taking your medications, especially not abruptly. If you have been utilizing these medications, sometimes a neurological dependence develops. In order to effectively move foreword, you would have to be weaned off of them, and only when there is a sufficient flow of feelings occurring naturally.
I’ve helped clients come off behavior modifying drugs numerous times in my private practice. It is attainable, but it takes time, patience and a competent, caring therapist as well as a willing, committed client. Also, if you are taking medications for emotional and behavioral reasons, you should be receiving some kind of regular support – preferably a therapist who focuses on emotions and the resolution of emotional issues.
If you feel empowered, you can begin to access your feelings more readily.
As you do, you will feel a flow of energy that feels more alive.
Next time, I will explore more deeply some behavior patterns you may have observed in others or in yourself as I begin to address what your emotional needs truly are as well as techniques on how to access emotions safely and effectively.